August 16, 2017...... at 12:27 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

The end of love is empty
Embers emitting smoke
Of passion there is nothing
Not relinquished to the yoke

A desert in the wasteland
Withering under scorn
Of kindness there is nothing
Not from acerbic born

The river running empty
The fish a fetid mess
Of life too there is nothing
Not trampled and oppressed

I look upon our garden rest
It’s whispering to me
The wind beneath the willows
And shadows on your breast

We waltz away through fairy fanes
And fecund, fiery fancy
Our gaze is clear, no haze insight
To futures burning bright



August 16, 2017...... at 12:20 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Pieces of my body abandon me
Isolated droplets of unhappiness

We part ways eventually,
But hollowness confounds my

Silence brings cacophony,
With long pregnant pauses

Our world around us swirls,
A maelstrom
an emptiness uncurls
where did it come from

Aqua alters rock
As root seeks crack
And slowly feeling seeps
Back into our world

The cycle of love and pain
Consumes and births again
An appreciation for your soul
And the way it makes me whole

I cleave to our infinity
Our endless tug and pull
Nurtured by the tears
That keep our souls so full

Life lessons

April 18, 2016...... at 8:15 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
Lesson Source
The secret to happiness is the acceptance of yourself. Psycho-Cybernetics
Live fully in the present without any inner voice narrating that present. A New Earth – E. Tolle
Your thoughts create your reality – be careful how you think
Your perception of others is a reflection of your own reality.
Think positive thoughts, focus on positives – it will change your world
People want recognition and praise more than sex and money 12 Elements of Great Management
The greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
Practice makes the master, we are creatures of 10,000 hours of habit.
In life we have control over two things, what we think, and what we say.
Freedom lies in the pause between stimulus and response Emotional Intelligence – D.Goleman
Habits change when you want them to not when you will them to Psycho-Cybernetics
Life’s worth is defined by the richness of your experience, not by your experience of richness
Sometimes your joy comes from your smile, you can fake it till its real.
Practice Energy Management – drink water and smile more often.
Reduce your attachment to possessions – turn needs into wants
Get fit – your brain is an organ, feed it well
Don’t take yourself to seriously – laughter is good for the soul
Read books
Get enough sun
Help others
Meditate daily, deep breathing calms the mind
Be honest – the truth will set you free
Find your passion and embed it in your life
Learn to forgive without resentment
Become a source of energy for other people
Be the change you wish to see in the world Gandhi
You can’t change anybody but yourself Feel the Fear – S Jeffers
visualise daily – what you focus on is what you get The Secret
Your attitude determines your altitude
Action expresses priorities Gandhi
Be successful at something
Write down what you want to do tomorrow before going to bed
Do what you love
Choose your friends wisely – your are the avg of the 5 people you spend your time with
Over prepare and then go with the flow D Eisenhower
All that truly matters in the end is that you loved and were loved
Focus on the stuff that is important – say no to everything else
Do something crazy, create memorable experiences
Everyday do something new, habits are formed/broken 1 day at a time
Happiness is a by-product of Altruism or Love Man’s search for meaning – V.Frankl
Don’t compare yourself to anyone else – we are all unique
Eat the frog for breakfast Mark Twain
In the end the shadow is but a passing thing Tolkien
If you don’t ask, you don’t get
Get busy living, or get busy dying.
That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. Dune – F Herbert
Learn to control your thoughts and emotions NLP
Its a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it WS Maugham
Be Grateful
Take on a new challenge every year, personal growth lies outside your comfort zone

Deconstructed chicken nachos

February 3, 2013...... at 12:43 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
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Love the way the flavours come together in your mouth.

The most romantic proposal ever

October 31, 2012...... at 8:22 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

On the 29 Feb, Hema proposed to me. She went to great lengths to make it one of the most memorable days of my life. We went to Grand on the Beach, and drank champaign while lounging under a boma on the beach and had a lovely lunch – the pizza there is amazing and I love pizza.

Then she took me to a urban chic hotel with the most beautiful rooms and we spent the afternoon together enjoying each others company. As evening descended we went to Gold and we had our first drumming session before going into the restaurant for dinner. 3 courses in I was given a glass of champaign with a ring in it, I said yes and the celebration singers came to our table and celebrated our impending union with song.

Later we went for a walk down long street and had a little party at Roberto’s with a table of complete strangers who just wanted to share a little in our obvious happiness.

Then we went back to our hotel and had the most wonderful evening together.

All during the day she kept giving me little presents with messages of love on them.

It was a day that I will remember for ever.

At the time that she proposed, I was up to my eyeballs in debt and running a company that was loosing money every month. Yet still she proposed.

My ex-wife was dragging me through court and being her usual difficult self and creating stress that was spilling over into my relationship with Hema. Yet still she proposed.

She was struggling to deal with the incredible, constant parental responsibilities that come with being the partner of a man with three kids. Yet still she proposed.

She knew that marrying me would mean leaving her life in the UK and starting a new life in South Africa. Yet still she proposed.

She is one of the bravest people that I know and I am blessed to have her in my life.

Well angel, I have decided that it’s not fair that you’re only one who gets to propose. Just as you showed me how much you loved me, I want to show you how much I love you. I am going to show you all the reasons why I love you so much and each experience will be one that you will never forget.

Let’s see what you say when I ask the question this time?

My first joke

October 8, 2012...... at 8:01 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

One of the problems with getting a puppy is that
Iife changes. Before, when you discovered a brown mark on your duvet, you bent over, smelt and it and confidently declared it to be “Chocolate”.
Now, you come upon a suspicious brown stain and your heart starts beating a little bit faster….
“is it chocolate?, is it chocolate?, is it chocolate?” as you ask your partner to lean down and confirm your worst nightmare!
And what does any self-respecting man do? He runs off to the office and ensures somebody else bathes the puppy.
I wonder why she called me a “bastardo” as I left this morning???

Is social becoming the new adwords

January 31, 2012...... at 11:08 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I’ve always been an early adopter. Recently I have found myself creating dummy gmail and Facebook accounts purely so that I could play games. The games in question all seem assume its ok to request access to your social network to allow you to play.

Which got me to thinking, as someone who uses Adwords extensively to market JobCrystal, I would happily pay Facebook or Google a price for access to their social networks. For every social connection of a registered user I am able to add to my database I would happily pay. Conceptually mining a users social graph is no different to advertising or buying Adwords clicks. If I was Facebook I would charging these games slightly less per user added through the social graph than google would charge for an Adwords click.

The future of advertising may be the friends who ask you to help them do something in some online game.

You rock my world, heart & soul

April 27, 2010...... at 11:24 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

3 days ago I couldn’t stop grinning, I was head over heels with you. It was a feeling that was from the heart and reminded me of young love, it was silly and whimsical, fun and exhilarating, distracting and all consuming; but at its base it was young. I left you thinking, how can this feeling not be part of regular human experience – we are fools not to let ourselves feel this every couple of years, and yet we don’t, we grow out of this kind of love and become adults. Why I’m not sure, but we do. Recognising that I was reluctant to use the word love to describe it. Once you have kids, adult love is a grown-up word with responsibilities and quite frankly you made me forget all my responsibilities 🙂
Watching you today with my kids, I realised I was a fool. Whether it was standing together in the kitchen and cooking together or singing together to the same songs or thinking the same thoughts at the same time, what we shared today made all my previous definitions of love look hopelessly inadequate. I don’t know how you did it, but with every look, every touch, every kiss you completed me, you conveyed to me with your every gesture how much you enjoyed being in my life and my life was infinitely better with you in it. I just want you to know that as much as you complete me, I hope to complete you. You are an absolutely awesome human being, and it is a privilege to spend time with you, you enrich me. Today you entered my mind and blew me apart. I love you, heart and soul. We sing the same life song using different words, and the differences in the language deepen my understanding of the message and for that I thank you. For sharing the song I love you.
Today was the end of infatuation and beginning of conscious love, I choose you, it feels so right.

First Kiss

April 27, 2010...... at 11:24 am | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Thank-you to a very special lady, for making me feel like a boy again. For bringing a big smile to my face with a first kiss. How special such a simple thing, how much it speaks to our humanity. Two individuals reach out and cross the divide of ego and for a moment hunger to become one, to share everything and be uplifted by the unconditional acceptance that the other offers in their need. Life is again a hunger, all is as it should be. It is the essence of reciprocity, I want to make you feel special as much as you want to make me feel special. I didn’t realise how much I missed reciprocity until tonight, its sudden presence was a bliss I had forgotten. Treasure it, wrap it up and put it under your Christmas tree because this is what life is made of. So easy to forget what it means to be human, its about the relationships and the community and the beautiful people that will fill your world if you let them. I haven’t felt like this over a decade and I wonder why. This last 3 months has been a revelation to me, so much accumulated behavior that did not belong to me, baggage picked up along the road of my last relationship. Since letting it go I’ve been free falling to a happier state, and tonight I landed! I was free to be totally myself, all the baggage was gone. I was a younger, happier me.

Telkom customer service nightmare

March 16, 2010...... at 5:11 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Spent 25 minutes on the phone to Telkom, troubleshooting a persistent ADSL connection dropping issue for a friend. After running the usual diagnostics and rebooting the router several times, Telkom help-desk tells me there’s nothing wrong with the line, so in their opinion the modem is broken and I should take it in to be replaced.

I said, okay no problem. Put in another ISP’s settings and satisfied myself that indeed the router did appear to be the cause of the issues. Friend is irritated as this is the second time the router has been replaced, a duoPlus 300. On Monday my friend runs into the Telkom store in Tokai, where after standing in one queue for 10 minutes, she’s told “Wrong queue – try that queue”. Another 10 minute wait, gets to the service consultant, tells them what the helpdesk told them and that they need to replace the modem.

Customer service says they can’t do that because she doesn’t have a reference number from the 25 minute call on Sunday. I mean come on. Firstly, it is easy to establish that the router is broken, try get it to connect. Secondly, the helpdesk, didn’t give me a reference number, nor tell me that I needed one to swap out the modem.

So the user experience looks like this:
1. Spend 25 minutes on the phone, rebooting router every 10 minutes. Get told you need to get a replacement modem.
2. Go to store, stand in wrong queue for 10 minutes (signage anyone)
3. Stand in right queue for 10 minutes, only to be told to go back to step one and repeat the process, because you don’t have the magic code that step one was supposed to give you.


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